Through the work I’ve done in various places, from the arty erotica to the mainstream pornography and all that goes in between, there have been situations where the consumer has imposed their will or fantasy of the person I am onto me.

It makes me feel really gross.

It’s one of the very few things that can make me feel bad about doing nude photo-shoots/videos and masturbation stuff.

Seriously just because someone has seen me (or anyone else for that matter!) naked on the intertubes or have an orgasm and most likely rubbed one out themselves to that content certainly does not mean they know me or the person/s in the shoot, film or whatever.  We don’t have a relationship despite what fantasy of me you may create in your head to get off on my orgasm or naked body or whatever.

I understand that by putting myself ‘out there’ that I can’t control who sees me and how they respond, I get that.  But the whole misconception that I must be a “hot slut” totally gagging for any kind of attention I can get makes me sick.  And receiving vile emails about my “huge pussy lips” isn’t appreciated.

Reality check.  How is this okay?  Would you say this utter bullshit to my face.  I don’t think so.

People in pornography and erotica are living, breathing, feeling, emoting human beings with personalities and whole lives AWAY from the adult industry.

For the love of Babs, give the hardworking men and women in porn the respect and kudos they deserve.  Honestly folks, how hard is it to be polite?  So please make your criticisms constructive, your praise positive without the leeriness and ask yourself wwbd if she read the email you were about to send me.

/end rant