This post is dedicated to k.j.

As per the diagram above^ vulvas come in all kinds of variations…  None of them seem ‘right’  or ‘ wrong’ to me.  I think #27 is my personal favourite, the vulva I find most asthetically pleasing so to speak.  However if I was presented with any of these vulvas, by someone I wanted to get busy with, I’d be pretty fucking happy to bury my face into any of them.  I reckon a lot of guys probably share this sentiment too.  Although I can only speak from my own experience with men to make this fairly sweeping statement.

I think we always tend to want what we don’t have ourselves.

I also think we tend to think we’re freaky, ugly, weird and so on.  I mean, of the images above I don’t think I look like any of them, although #29 is probably the closest and my inital reaction was ‘jeez, I’m not really identifed in any of these examples…’

This is me:

So as you can see, not a lot to see unless I genuinely spread my legs.  I tend to suffer, although not too much, from vagina envy…  I want a fuller vulva but really do love what I have and what it does for me.  As you can see I don’t have particularly defined outer lips, but everything I do have is tucked inside me and all of my genitals are right underneath my pelvis, rather than kinda starting towards the front.  It seems loads of women have more vulva starting on the front of their bodies, I don’t for whatever reason and honestly that’s fine.

Also, now that I have full pubes, you can’t even really see anything defined much behind the brunette fuzz if I’m standing  front-on naked.

Image source: Mike Dowson

I particularly like the image above as it clearly shows 2 very, very similar bodies – breasts, hips, shoulder width and torso length ect are evenly matched.  However these ladies have very different vulvas.  It shows that no 2 women are the same, despite, at first glance how similar they look.

Basically, what I’m driving at here is that we should try to accept, value and try our best to succeed at loving what we have.  Don’t judge yourself as ugly, because it’s an unhelpful, negative and pretty closed way of looking at yourself and kind of by default, others as well.  It’s tricky sometimes and we cannot do this every single day, but try to celebrate yourself and your body.  Be kind to yourself both in thoughts and words.

Self love, in all it’s expressions is a beautiful and wonderful thing and I encourage everyone, everywhere to take some time to enjoy yourself and be nice to yourself.