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Oh joy, let’s add it to the fucking list.


I. Just. Don’t. Even.

*hits eject from society button*

This post is dedicated to k.j.

As per the diagram above^ vulvas come in all kinds of variations…  None of them seem ‘right’  or ‘ wrong’ to me.  I think #27 is my personal favourite, the vulva I find most asthetically pleasing so to speak.  However if I was presented with any of these vulvas, by someone I wanted to get busy with, I’d be pretty fucking happy to bury my face into any of them.  I reckon a lot of guys probably share this sentiment too.  Although I can only speak from my own experience with men to make this fairly sweeping statement.

I think we always tend to want what we don’t have ourselves.

I also think we tend to think we’re freaky, ugly, weird and so on.  I mean, of the images above I don’t think I look like any of them, although #29 is probably the closest and my inital reaction was ‘jeez, I’m not really identifed in any of these examples…’

This is me:

So as you can see, not a lot to see unless I genuinely spread my legs.  I tend to suffer, although not too much, from vagina envy…  I want a fuller vulva but really do love what I have and what it does for me.  As you can see I don’t have particularly defined outer lips, but everything I do have is tucked inside me and all of my genitals are right underneath my pelvis, rather than kinda starting towards the front.  It seems loads of women have more vulva starting on the front of their bodies, I don’t for whatever reason and honestly that’s fine.

Also, now that I have full pubes, you can’t even really see anything defined much behind the brunette fuzz if I’m standing  front-on naked.

Image source: Mike Dowson

I particularly like the image above as it clearly shows 2 very, very similar bodies – breasts, hips, shoulder width and torso length ect are evenly matched.  However these ladies have very different vulvas.  It shows that no 2 women are the same, despite, at first glance how similar they look.

Basically, what I’m driving at here is that we should try to accept, value and try our best to succeed at loving what we have.  Don’t judge yourself as ugly, because it’s an unhelpful, negative and pretty closed way of looking at yourself and kind of by default, others as well.  It’s tricky sometimes and we cannot do this every single day, but try to celebrate yourself and your body.  Be kind to yourself both in thoughts and words.

Self love, in all it’s expressions is a beautiful and wonderful thing and I encourage everyone, everywhere to take some time to enjoy yourself and be nice to yourself.


^The amazing artist/photographer

^Buy the Pussy Portraits book here (I know I’m going to!)

The ABC documentary on how censorship is making a generation of women cut off their lady bits.

Warning: this is totally fucked.  You should watch it, but it may emotionally scar you irrevocably .

The video clip might interest you

me:  I have no audio on my work pc 😦

Andrew:  :-(Definately worth watching
Discussing whether censorship rules in Australia are distorting people’s view of waht ‘normal’ female gentalia is
Leading to an increase in labiaplasty
Actually includes some detail of the procedure too…

me:  Ahhh, yes I’ve seen that
It was featured on overkill blog
But thank you 🙂

Andrew:  NP
Has always bothered me
I used to occasionally buy the m15 and r versions of the same edition of penthouse to put them side by side
Distrubing shit

me:  Censorship is fucked.  Let alone censorship that makes young girls think their genitals are abnormal to the point of surgical alteration
Really really boils my blood

Andrew:  nods
I think it also distorts men’s view as well

me:  Oh course it does!  But at the same time if you are exposed to enough real womens vulvas guys get an opportunity to see different types.
Women in general, don’t get exposed to a heap of vag’s, except in pron

Andrew:  Gerneally though, prono is stylised to be what you’re supposed to think is attractive:
big boobs
and a featureless cleft
I remember for a while there it was hard to find anything other than a blonde in porno
Definately make you wonder if likeing brunettes better is strange

me:  Laf.  That’s why brunettes and esp gingers make a killing when they get into making films.  The market was starving, for a long time, for something different.

me:  ha
speaking of censorship, the woman who does the ‘show us your tits’ project (world acclaimed art project) had breast feeding images censored by facebook
she went on abc radio to talk about it and now it’s gone worldwide
cop that facecrack!

Andrew:  hehe
I really wish western society would get over this whole boobs/vag/penis/sex is bad thing
Voilence is bad but we can watch that on TV all day

me:  precisely
When did we get all victorian?
There was a teensy bit of liberation for a while there
But the churchies dealt with that
we are adults ffs
I resent my government deciding what I am allowed to watch, download and what I show my kids

Andrew:  I just watched a doco on donkey fucking in northern columbia
I’m pretty sure that kind of thing wouldn’t be allowed through the new filter
But it deals with something that I’m pretty sure happens here

me:  Yup

Andrew:  And everywhere there are men and animals

me:  Don’t give people information, it will give them ‘ideas’ or corrupt children.  It’s happening anyways!  Why not bring it out in the open!

Andrew:  (Incidentally, someone sent me the link after discussing ass vs donkey and tapping ass)

me:  Laf

Andrew:  Interesting 15 minutes
I now know more about it than I really needed to maybe but at least I’m informed now

me:  😉

Andrew:  shrugs
Has changed my view
So maybe that was a good thing

me:  That’s just it!  You should have the right to access information and make YOUR mind up about it

Andrew:  preeching to the choir

me:  I know
I just get really passionate about this stuff…
Sorry 😛

Andrew:  NP
It’s why I mentioned it
(originally, way, way up there ^)

me:  You know me well.

The extremity of surgery never enters my mind when it comes to my insecurities…

I really like receiving oral sex.  I also really enjoy giving it.  I can deep throat, I enjoy giving a bj and I find the act itself pretty damn hot.  But it would seem my willingness to do this and the fact I generally initiate this sexual actual somehow precludes me from getting any oral loving in return.

It sucks.  Literally.

I’m feeling really paranoid about it…  Like seriously, WTF is wrong with my pussy that makes people so fucking adverse to eating it, or like at present even touching it AT ALL?

I really like what I have, I think it’s pretty and compared to many other vagina’s quite petite.  (Yes, I know, vagina envy)

This is an ongoing thing and it’s just crap.  Even when I’ve been honest and upfront about my own sexual desires (i.e can you please put your mouth on my vagina?) it’s met with resounding silence or evasion, or worst of all excuses.  Since when did we live in a society of men who don’t go down on women?  Or is it just me that’s bereft?

This is actually beginning to get pretty upsetting.  What’s the point of having sex if a big part of what I want out of the experience is lacking?


Went to piercers yesterday and had a lovely tattooed lady work on getting the bastard (my hood piercing) unscrewed for almost 20 mins!!!

She finally had to get 2 big pairs of pliers and unscrew it.

Painful?  Yes.

Relieved? Hells yes.


If I can get the damn thing off…

I’ve had several attempts to get the beads undone to no avail.  I’m going to have to go to a local piercer, spread my legs and let him/her get in there with a pair of pliers.

Wow.  Well that sounds dodgy as fuck.  Laf.

It definitely needs to come out though, it’s my clitoral hood and the piercing has become quite flimsy and at times quite uncomfortable.  I find myself fiddling around a bunch to get it into a workable position when I’m wanking.

It used to enhance sensation and now it gets on the way of sensation.

Tis sad, but I think that’s the end of that for my hood.  This is the second time I’ve had it done and I just don’t think my body is suited to this particular piercing.  I mean if I had ‘more’ hood I reckon it would be okay, but I has not a lot to work with in the excess-to-pierce-through department.



Goodbye pretty piercing…

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